OUT with some of the ‘old’ wedding traditions
The tradition: The first dance
The twist: All in!
If you and your groom have four left feet between you, the looming possibility of a first dance could be Strictly Come Embarrassing. With all eyes on you, many couples feel the pressure to book dance lessons and rehearse before taking centre stage, but if that sounds like the stuff of nightmares, why not invite all couples to the floor for a first dance? It’s a guaranteed floor-filler, and will take the pressure off your moves, too.
The tradition: The top table
The twist: The sweetheart table
There are plenty of reasons not to have a top table – maybe you have divorced parents to negotiate, need someone to sit with your elderly grandma or perhaps you don’t like the idea of being centre of attention at dinner. Skip family drama by opting for a sweetheart table (just you and your partner), or sit at a table just like every other.
The tradition: The gift list
The twist: Honeymoon fund
Many couples now live together before tying the knot, so the traditional gift list doesn’t suit everyone. If you don’t need a new teapot, it’s no longer a social faux pas to ask for something else – cash. If you do want to dress up your donations, ask guests to put money towards your honeymoon by buying an experience.
The tradition: The wedding breakfast
The twist: Afternoon tea
A sit-down meal used to be the heart of a wedding reception, but increasingly brides are skipping three courses in favour of something simpler, such as an afternoon tea. Not only is this budget-savvy, but it complements a laidback celebration.
The tradition: The newlywed send-off
The twist: Let the music play on!
The line of guests waving off the newlyweds as they drive away into the sunset, tin cans clanking behind them, is now a thing of the past. Many couples choose to
stay and party with their friends into the early hours of the morning. It might mean sacrificing time otherwise spent enjoying your wedding night, but for many couples the importance of staying and enjoying every last minute of the party atmosphere is more important than sloping off early to the honeymoon suite.
The tradition: The white dress
The twist: Colour me pretty
It’s got to be all white on the night, right? Not so! It might be signature bridal style but for some, white can be unflattering and many brides choose an alternative hue such as blush, oyster or blue. You might even shrug off tradition altogether and opt for a brighter colour. Even the celebs are doing it – Avril Lavigne and Shenae Grimes opted for black, while Gwen Stefani, Reese Witherspoon and Anne Hathaway all chose shades of pink.
The tradition: Throwing the bouquet
The twist: The plan-b posy
Perhaps you can’t bear to part with your bouquet (well, it is the most expensive bunch of flowers you’ll ever have) or maybe you find the idea of gathering all the single ladies a total cringe-fest. You could try one of these flower-friendly alternatives instead. If you have your heart set on the toss, ask your florist to make a smaller throwing bouquet, or use one of your maids’ instead.